We hear it all the time: you have to love yourself before you can love someone else. But how do you do that…really?
If you’ve had low self-esteem, trouble with your weight, addiction issues, or relationship failures, chances are you don’t realize your own value. Somewhere along the line you’ve likely been told you didn’t measure up in one way or another, you may have felt compared to someone or some thing else, and your confidence in yourself for who you are and the value you contribute to the world was bruised, or lost altogether.
You have the power to change that. It’s true that when you have others in your life telling you how wonderful you are, and affirming your value often, it’s easier to rebuild your true self. But sometimes, it’s just up to you.
Whether you realize it or not, it’s likely you talk to yourself throughout the days, weeks, and years, reinforcing those self doubts, reminding yourself you’re not pretty enough, or smart enough, or creative enough, or some other thing, to deserve the love of those you respect.
Try a new prescription for loving yourself. Make a list of all the good and great things about yourself. Everything positive you can think of. Maybe you’re great at cleaning, or building a fire, or loading a dishwasher. Maybe you are a great writer, or reader, or gardener. It doesn’t matter what’s on the list, write it all down. Then put a copy of that list on the bathroom mirror, by your bedside, and on the refrigerator.
Commit to read that list through, out loud, ever time you see it. Stop and give yourself that five minutes and listen to all your assets. After three days, take a moment to look in the mirror and tell yourself all those wonderful things about yourself.
In 30 days, do you notice that you are beginning to see more beauty in yourself? Do you feel a little better? Get in touch with me and tell me your results. But don’t stop. Keep the commitment going.
You deserve to be loved. You’re wonderful!